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Why hermits are happy ?

Why are hermits happy ? They don't wear trendy footwear, expensive watches or drive big cars. They do not have the privilege of social bonds , affection from family and friends. While I am writing, I am wondering what is the basis of my question ! Why should they not be happy? Who determined  what must make us happy or unhappy ? Social construct , is it?  It is  formed over centuries which leads us to believe what we believe in . It exists because humans acknowledge its existence whereas it may not  exist if  seen objectively. If one is unhappy, it is  because S/he got things contrary to this construct. Tough is to break free from it and create a new one. To break free means to rebuild the frame that we live in, the frame which defines love, hatred, desirable, undesirable, success, failure and so on. Freeing up the mind from pre existing and filling it up with new definitions, This is creativity ! Can we  just flip this construct ? and see the magic unfold.
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When nothing works…

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I die to live !

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If I could change the past

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A letter to god

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I love you really

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Move on

  We never wish to admit that someone who we love can ever hurt so we try to give every possible explanation to protect him/her. However we pay the price for this . Inside, it kills  but we choose to suffer and not admit the truth. If we try to shield and cover up  for long, it  increases our own suffering.  This arrangement cannot be sustainable. Some day we can be pushed into deep inconsolable pain .We may pretend having no pain and hence will do nothing to alleviate it. We might as well blame  our expectations and cause more self harm. That is why  the pain inflicted by a loved one causes more harm than that of a stranger . Our heart  does not accept the truth and we bear the suffering quietly without even acknowledging it. If we  are worn out ourselves, we become incapable of protecting others. So I guess best is to acknowledge , forgive and move on.

Good selfishness

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Enigma of life

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Cant see them rot !

  A bunch of roses in a flower vase is adorable, it spreads fragrance and displays beauty but a time comes when we need to let it go or else it will rot in front of our eyes and we can’t see that. Change is the rule of nature.  It could be people, objects, our adamancy & insistence about things which needs to be let go. Old replaces new, memories stay with us, haunt us..... However, Sometimes we need to let go!

Don't you trust your craziness ?

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Final destination

On my birthday, I take a moment and look back and I see a girl  who used to be  quite aspirational and ambitious, who tried to plan everything in advance , all her anticipated successes and joys, based on her limited knowledge about happiness and success. She went about achieving her planned success with great energy, worked hard and displayed exemplary will power. She made choices which she thought led her towards her planned goal of happiness in personal and professional life. She was indeed quite picky about her choices and she felt totally in charge of her life. Fifty years hence, I seem to have reached some unknown destination.  It seems no planning worked. So many surprises in life, never ever imagined situations swipe away the current state like a storm takes away with it everything that is there on the sea shore. Alas, I can’t go back in time and change my choices. Fear cripples us. The fear of where will my livelihood come from? Will I have food, home, health, money in the